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Alexey Goldman

Micro habits — Macro results

Chapter 1: The Power of Small Things. How 5 Minutes a Day Can Change Everything

You will understand why tiny actions succeed where grand plans fail. You will learn how to outsmart your own resistance and start moving toward your goal in the simplest, most enjoyable way possible.

Imagine you had to eat an entire elephant. The thought is overwhelming; you wouldn’t even know where to begin. But what if you ate just one small bite a day? Before you know it, without any strain, the plate would be empty.

The same principle applies to any change in life. Our brains are cunning; they fear big tasks and put up defenses like laziness, procrastination, and fear. It screams: “This is too hard! It will take too much energy! Danger!”. And we back down.

But what if you proposed a task to your brain that is so small it’s almost laughable? One push-up? Learn one word? Read one page? Your brain would just shrug: “Sure, no problem, that’s trivial.” And it would agree.

That’s the whole secret. You bypass resistance where it least expects an attack. You aren’t fighting yourself. You’re taking a different approach.

Why does this work? The explanation is simple:

It starts the process. The hardest part of any task is starting. A micro-habit is such a small, non-intimidating start that beginning is effortless. Did you do one push-up? You’re already a champion! You’re in the game. And often, once you start, you feel like doing a little more (but that’s optional!).

It creates momentum. Imagine a heavy wheel. It’s hard to get it moving initially. But once it’s rolling, it’s easy to keep it going. Your micro-habit is that crucial first push. It helps establish a rhythm and pattern.

It builds confidence. Every day, by keeping your small promise to yourself, you send a signal to your brain: “I am a person of my word. I can do this.” This tiny feeling of victory accumulates. After a month, you no longer feel like a failure who quit working out. You feel like someone who has done their exercise for 30 days in a row. The difference is colossal!

Practical Tips and Techniques:

The “Tiny Start” Technique: Turn any big goal into a ridiculously small action.

Instead of: “Start running in the mornings.”

Try: “Put on my running shoes and go outside for 2 minutes.”

Instead of: “Learn English.”

Try: “Open the app and learn one word during breakfast.”

Instead of: “Clean the entire house.”

Try: “Wash one plate right after eating.”

The “You Can Do More” Rule: This is the most important rule! You agreed with yourself on one push-up. You did it — and you can go about your day with a sense of accomplishment. But if you feel the desire and energy to do two more — go for it! The key is not to turn this into an obligation. The minimum is mandatory; the maximum is whatever you want. This takes the pressure off.

A Real-Life Example:

Anna always wanted to practice yoga. She bought a mat, found complex hour-long videos on YouTube, and tried to follow along. After three days, everything hurt, it felt too hard, and she quit. She felt guilty for years.

Then she decided to try the micro-habits method. Her new goal was: “Unroll the mat and stand in Mountain Pose for one minute.” That’s it. No complex poses. Day one: done. Day two: done. On the third day, standing in Mountain Pose, she felt like doing a forward bend. She did it. On the fourth day — another simple movement. A month passed. Anna hadn’t missed a single day. Her “yoga” lasted anywhere from 1 to 10 minutes. But after six months, it became a solid habit. She became more flexible, calmer, and, most importantly, she stopped beating herself up. She started with a micro-step and achieved a macro-result.

Chapter Summary: Don’t ask yourself for heroic feats. Ask for the tiniest effort. This tiny effort, repeated over and over, will prove to be the most reliable and smoothest path to your goal. Start small. Start today.

Chapter 2: The Enemy of Change is Your Resistance. How to Outsmart Your Brain and Start Taking Action

You will learn who your main adversary is on the path to change (spoiler: it’s your own brain!) and learn to gently bypass its objections. You will master the “2-Minute Rule,” which instantly relieves the tension of big tasks.

Have you ever had this happen: you know you need to do something important, but instead you suddenly find yourself cleaning the fridge or binge-watching your fifth episode in a row? Congratulations, you’ve met Resistance.

Resistance is an innate mechanism of our psyche that protects us from anything new, energy-consuming, and potentially dangerous. It wants everything to stay the same because that’s safe and economical. Big, effort-intensive tasks are met with fierce resistance: “Later!”, “I’m tired,” “I’ll start Monday,” “It’s too complicated.”

Using willpower against Resistance is like trying to drive a car with the handbrake on. You burn out the clutch, rev the engine, but you won’t get far. You just need to release the brake.

Micro-habits are the way to release that handbrake. You don’t attack Resistance head-on. You offer it a deal it can’t refuse.

Why does this work? The explanation is simple:

You make the task so simple that it’s easier for your brain to just do it than to waste energy arguing and procrastinating. Resistance doesn’t even have time to engage! While it’s sleeping, you’ve already done the deed and gotten your dose of pleasure from a small victory.

Practical Tips and Techniques:

The Main Technique: “The 2-Minute Rule.” Any task can be reduced to a first action that takes less than two minutes.

Goal: “Read a book” -> First action: “Open the book to the first page and read one paragraph” (2 minutes).

Goal: “Cook dinner” -> First action: “Take out the frying pan and put it on the stove” (1 minute).

Goal: “Clean out the closet” -> First action: “Open the closet and take out one item” (1 minute).

The point is, you can’t get tired in 2 minutes. Following this rule almost guarantees you’ll end up doing a bit more: you read a paragraph — you feel like reading a page; you took out the pan — you start chopping an onion. But even if you don’t — you’ve fulfilled your 2-minute duty.

The “Quit Before You’re Tired” Technique. This is the golden rule of habit formation. You must finish your micro-action BEFORE it becomes tedious and you feel tired. It should remain easy and even slightly pleasant. This creates anticipation for tomorrow. You’ll want to repeat it. If you push yourself to exhaustion, your brain will remember the pain and resist even more next time.

A Real-Life Example:

Mikhail’s garage was a mess. The thought of cleaning it was terrifying. He put it off for months. Applying the 2-minute rule, he gave himself the task: “Go into the garage for 2 minutes every day and do one thing.” On the first day, he simply threw out an empty gas can. On the second day, he hung the drill on a hook. On the third day, entering for his 2 minutes, he saw there was already a small result. He stayed for 5 minutes and cleared a corner of the workbench. Within two weeks, spending 2—15 minutes a day, Mikhail had completely organized the garage. He didn’t force himself through a multi-hour marathon he hated. He took tiny, almost imperceptible steps. Resistance didn’t even realize what was happening until the job was done.

Chapter Summary: Don’t fight your inner “brake.” It’s stronger than you. Outsmart it. Offer it a task so small it’s embarrassing to refuse. Take that first two-minute step — and you’re already on your way. Remember, it’s not about the volume of what you get done today. It’s about not breaking the chain and maintaining momentum.

Chapter 3: Where to Start? Choosing Your First Micro-Habit

You will learn how to choose the area of your life to start with, without panic or confusion. You will learn how to turn a vague dream into a clear and understandable micro-step that you can take today.

When we think about making a change, a whirlwind of desires often swirls in our heads: get in shape, learn a language, organize finances, spend more time with family, read more books… With this overload of plans, it’s easy to get lost and scared. It feels like you need to do everything at once, but you have neither the energy nor the time.

This chapter is your anchor of calm. We will not charge all fronts simultaneously. That is a sure path to burnout and new disappointments. Instead, we will take a deep breath and choose just one, single most important focal point for you right now. One single micro-habit.

How do you find it? You need to look at your life honestly and calmly and understand which small but regular action will bring you the most peace, joy, or relief.

Why does this work? The explanation is simple:

Your willpower and attention are like a flashlight beam. If you shine it in all directions at once, you won’t see anything. But if you focus the beam on one spot, it becomes bright and clear. By concentrating on one habit, you direct all your energy to one place. This is how you break through a wall: you knock out one brick, and the others give way more easily. By making one habit automatic, you don’t just acquire the habit — you gain the self-confidence to tackle the next one. You are building a solid foundation for big changes, one brick at a time.

Practical Tips and Techniques:

The “Wheel of Life” Technique (Simple Version).

Take a regular piece of paper and a pen. Draw a circle and divide it, like a pie, into 6—8 segments. Each segment is an important area of your life. For example:

Health & Energy (well-being, nutrition, movement)

Relationships (family, friends, partner)

Finances (income, expenses, savings)

Career & Growth (work, studies, new skills)

Joy & Rest (hobbies, interests, recharging)

Order & Home (comfort and coziness in your space)

Now, honestly, rate each area on a scale from 1 to 10. How satisfied are you with what’s happening in this area? Where 1 is “everything is terrible” and 10 is “everything is perfect, couldn’t be better.”

Look at the resulting drawing. Which area is asking for the most urgent and simple attention? Often, it’s not the one with the lowest score (it might be too difficult to start there), but the one where raising it by just one point would make your life noticeably better right now. Start with that one.

The “From Big Dream to Tiny Step” Technique.

Choose one area from your Wheel of Life. Now, let’s perform a magical transformation.

Step 1: Formulate the Desire. What do you deeply want in this area? (e.g., “Feel energetic in the mornings,” “Stop worrying about money,” “Enjoy time with my kids instead of being tired by it”).

Step 2: Find a Concrete Action. What could lead you to this? (e.g., “Exercise regularly,” “Track expenses,” “Set aside time to play with my child every day”).

Step 3: Shrink It to the Ridiculous. And now — the main secret! Make this action so simple it’s impossible not to do.

(e.g., “Do one squat after brushing my teeth,” “Write down one largest daily expense before bed,” “Hug my child for 10 seconds when I get home from work”).

Your goal is not to “work out.” Your goal is to “do one squat.” That’s it. When this action becomes as natural as brushing your teeth, you can always do two. But you must start with a ridiculously small step.

A Real-Life Example:

Maria felt like she was constantly running but never catching up. Home, work, two kids. She wanted to change everything but didn’t know where to start. She drew her Wheel of Life. The worst scores were “Rest & Joy” (2 points) and “Health” (3 points). She realized she had completely forgotten about herself, and everything else was suffering because of it.

Her big desire was: “To feel rested and have just a little time for myself.” The concrete action: “Find 15 minutes a day for reading or a quiet cup of tea.” But she knew that even 15 minutes in her schedule was an impossible luxury, and she would scold herself for being lazy.

So, she applied the shrinking technique. Her micro-habit became: “After I put the kids to bed, I will boil the kettle and for exactly THREE minutes, I will drink tea in silence, looking out the window. No phone!”

Day one: she sat for three minutes with a cup of tea. It was unusual but pleasant. Day two: she started looking forward to those three minutes. After a week, these three minutes of silence became her personal island of calm. Sometimes she stretched them to five minutes. This tiny action didn’t take time away; on the contrary, it gave her strength back. Gradually, this grew into a habit of self-care, and Maria began to find other small opportunities to rest. She started with a micro-step and made her life noticeably better.

Chapter Summary: Don’t try to do it all. Your task is not to turn your life around in one day, but to choose one single direction and take the smallest, most timid step toward it. Right now, look at your Wheel of Life and ask yourself: “What one tiny ritual could make my tomorrow just a little bit better?” Start with that.

Chapter 4: The Start Ritual. How to “Attach” a New Action to an Old Habit

You will learn how to easily weave a new micro-habit into your existing daily routine without disrupting it or creating extra stress. You will master the “habit stacking” technique, which will make performing your mini-ritual automatic.

Imagine trying to catch a fish in the ocean. Casting your rod anywhere gives you almost zero chance. But if you find a spot where fish are already known to gather — you’ll get a great bite.

It’s the same with habits. Trying to find “special time” in your day for a new task is like casting your rod in an empty spot. It rarely works. It’s much simpler and smarter to “attach” new behavior to something you already do steadily every day without thinking. This is your “prime fishing” spot.

Our day is made of these anchor events: brushing teeth, making coffee, washing hands, arriving at work, turning on the computer, waiting for the elevator, making evening tea. These are your points of reliability. They happen on their own. Your task is to make your new micro-habit “ride on the tail” of one of these old, established habits.

Why does this work? The explanation is simple: