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Оглавление - What happens after No
Why boundaries don’t end participation
- INTRODUCTION
- Chapter 1. Words Are Not Boundaries
- AFTER THE MESSAGE IS SENT
- What People Usually Call a Boundary
- Why Explanation Is Treated as Polite
- Why the Request Comes Back
- What Explanation Protects
- The Quiet Cost of Staying Involved
- How This Becomes a Background State
- Two Ways the Same “No” Can Live
- When a Boundary Is Actually in Place
- Chapter 2. Decision Is Not the Same as Ending
- Clarity Without Relief
- Why the Mind Treats Clarity as an Ending
- When Clarity Makes Things Heavier
- The Illusion of Control
- WHEN SOMETHING ACTUALLY ENDS
- Chapter 3. When the Role Keeps You Involved
- “I Am Not That Kind of Person”
- When Consistency Becomes a Trap
- When the Role Holds More Than the Situation
- How the Role Is Held Between People
- When the Situation Is Over but the Role Remains
- Chapter 4. When Participation Is Not Shared
- Who Stays Involved After It Ends
- How Imbalance Becomes Normal
- Where Power Quietly Appears
- When Softness Becomes an Obligation
- When the Weight Becomes Visible
- Chapter 5. When Image Keeps You Involved
- What You Are Afraid to Lose
- When Image Turns Into a Commitment
- When Understanding Is Not Enough
- When the Image Shifts in the Social Field
- Chapter 6. When Responsibility Turns Into Obligation
- When Obligation Appears Without Pressure
- HOW RESPONSIBILITY BECOMES A DEBT
- GUILT AS A SIGNAL, NOT AN EMOTION
- WHEN THE BOUNDARY TOUCHES IDENTITY
- WHEN THE ROLE RELEASES
- CHAPTER 7. WHEN NOTHING IS WRONG, YOU STAY
- WHEN THERE IS NO EDGE TO STEP AWAY FROM
- WHY CALM SITUATIONS ARE THE HARDEST TO LEAVE
- READINESS WITHOUT A TASK
- WHEN PARTICIPATION BECOMES THE DEFAULT
- DISPLACEMENT IS NOT AN ENDING
- WHEN NOTHING MARKS THE END
- THE QUIET BIND OF “NOTHING IS WRONG”
- CHAPTER 8. WHEN WAITING KEEPS YOU INVOLVED
- WHEN NOTHING IS LEFT TO DO — BUT YOU STILL WAIT
- WAITING AS A SOCIAL SKILL
- WHEN CLOSURE IS DELEGATED OUTWARD
- THE BODY DOES NOT WAIT FOR WORDS
- WHY CONFIRMATION FEELS NECESSARY
- WHEN NOTHING COMES BACK
- THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ENDING AND BEING ACKNOWLEDGED
- WHEN WAITING STOPS
- CHAPTER 9. WHEN NOTHING SIGNALS THE END
- WHY THE SYSTEM DOES NOT STOP BY ITSELF
- WHEN TIME DOES NOT EQUAL COMPLETION
- ABSENCE OF DEMAND IS NOT AN ENDING
- WHY THE BODY KEEPS HOLDING
- WHEN ENDINGS WERE NEVER PRACTICED
- WHY UNDERSTANDING STILL DOES NOT HELP
- THE COST OF WAITING FOR NATURAL RELEASE
- WHAT THIS CHAPTER FIXES IN THE MODEL
- CHAPTER 10. WHEN PARTICIPATION ACTUALLY ENDS
- WHEN NOTHING NEEDS TO BE HELD ANYMORE
- WHAT IS DIFFERENT ABOUT THIS ENDING
- WHY THIS CANNOT BE FORCED
- THE QUIET SHIFT THAT MAKES IT POSSIBLE
- WHAT REMAINS AFTER PARTICIPATION ENDS
- WHY THIS CHANGES EVERYTHING ELSE
- THE FINAL DISTINCTION
- Mini-Glossary